24-Hour Telethon to Help the People of Haiti

HaitiTelethonHART2Mamacita says:  Let’s all use the power of social media to help the people of Haiti!  Tune in to One by One Media’s 24-hour telethon via WhatGives.com beginning TONIGHT and do what we can. Our dear friend and mentor Jim Turner, AKA Genuine, is the man behind the telethon; his post here at One by One Media gives us all some insight into his motivation for doing this.

It’s easy to get a mind-fix that these catastrophes usually happen far away to people we don’t know, but the fact is, we’re all in this together.  Today, it’s someone else who needs help; tomorrow, it could be us, right here.

Let the good that we do come back to us.  And even if it doesn’t, let’s do it anyway.

Tune in tonight and tomorrow to the Haiti Assistance Relief Telethon. Listen.  Call in.  Do what you can.  On Twitter, look for the hashtag #HART

You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. — John Wooden

Public Behavior: Ma Says To Rein It In, Kids!

littlehouse Mamacita says:  Caroline Lake Quiner Ingalls knew how to raise her children so that they would know how to behave themselves properly no matter where they might find themselves.

In Little Town on the Prairie, a teen-aged Laura is invited to a party. She had gone, years ago, to a little girls’ party, but this was entirely different. This was a high school party.  Laura had no idea what to expect, and no idea how she was supposed to behave in this unknown situation.

Laura’s Ma, on the other hand, knew exactly what to tell Laura about public behavior.  Please pay attention, parents, because this applies even today.  Remember: people of any age and background will always be more confident when they know how to behave.  And when they know how to behave, the smart ones WILL behave.  But first, they have to know how to behave.

(After reading the invitation) Laura sat limply down.  Ma took the invitation from her hand and read it again.

“It’s a party,” Ma said.  “A supper party.”

“Oh, Laura!  You’re asked to a party!” Carrie exclaimed.  Then she asked, “What is a party like?”

“I don’t know,” Laura said.  “Oh, Ma, what will I do?  I never went to a party.  How must I behave at a party?”

“You have been taught how to behave wherever you are, Laura,” Ma replied.  “You need only behave properly, as you know how to do.”

If we teach our children how to behave properly wherever they go, EVERYBODY, including the children themselves, will have a better time.  People who know how to behave themselves are more welcome, more inclined to be invited back, and more deserving of praise, privileges, and all other positive “things.”

These days, a lot of adults don’t seem to know how to behave themselves in public, either.  We can all learn a lot from Laura’s Ma.  She knew her stuff.

I think parents worry far too much about their children’s self esteem these days.  Genuine self-esteem must be earned.  We aren’t born deserving self-esteem; we have to deserve it.  It must be EARNED.   I think a polite,well-behaved child with an awareness of how nice people act in public is far more deserving of a sense of high self-esteem than is a brat the OTHER kind of child.  A person of any age who knows how to restrain themselves, be patient, and act right no matter what’s going on, is always more pleasant to be around.  Young parents, your children will not always be in situations wherein they can give free rein to their impulses and desire to play actively.  Be sure to teach them this important fact, because few things are more unpleasant than to be subjected to undisciplined children running wildly and loudly in a public place. And if there is a more beautiful sight than well-behaved children in public, I haven’t come across it yet.  I’m not talking about slimy little Eddie Haskells; I’m talking about a regular kid who’s been taught manners and is not merely expected, but REQUIRED, to use them in public.

To think otherwise is to fool only yourself. The children know. Don’t underestimate them. They KNOW. They’ll do what they know they can get by with.  They KNOW.   When will a lot of adults learn?

Ma Ingalls, you did it right.  Thank you, Laura, for getting it all down in your books.  It’s such a simple philosophy, and there’s no reason every sentient person shouldn’t be able to utilize it.

Note:  Don’t even think about assuming I’m putting down SPED. I’ll only taunt you for not being a careful reader.

Oh, parents, I hope you have the entire Little House series in your homes.  Don’t waste your time or money on the TV series, though; that was the pits.  The books, however, are jewels, every one of them.

Quotation Saturday: Let Us Help One Another

quotationsaturdayMamacita says:  Sometimes it takes a major catastrophe to remind us that we are all living on the same planet; that we all have the same basic needs; that the entire universe is based on Six Degrees of Separation; that the wheel of life turns and turns and the fly on the top will be the fly on the bottom eventually; that everything evens out because the rich have ice in the summer and the poor have it in the winter; and that if we don’t reach out a helping hand when we see someone within reach who needs one, nobody will reach out a helping hand to us when, as we eventually and inevitably will, need one ourselves.

The Samaritan had come from far away, while the priest and the Levite lived fairly nearby.  But it was the foreigner who helped the stranger; the others did not wish to get involved. The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was: “If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?” But… the good Samaritan reversed the question: “If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?” –Martin Luther King, Jr.

1. A good deed becomes tainted when you expect something in return. — Duane Alan Hahn

2. It is one of the most beautiful compensations in life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. Nothing is so hard for those who abound in riches to conceive how others can be in want. — Jonathan Swift

4. He who waits to do a great deal of good at once, will never do anything. — Samuel Johnson

5. Charity is injurious unless it helps the recipient to become independent of it. — John D. Rockefeller

6. The measure of life is not its duration, but its donation. — Peter Marshall

7. A bone to the dog is not charity. Charity is the bone shared with the dog, when you are just as hungry as the dog. — Jack London

8. If service is the rent you pay for your existence on this earth, are you behind in your rent? — Robert G Allen

9. I resolved to stop accumulating and begin the infinitely more serious and difficult task of wise distribution.
— Andrew Carnegie

10. Is the rich world aware of how four billion of the six billion live? If we were aware, we would want to help out, we’d want to get involved. — Bill Gates

11. The deed is everything, the glory naught. — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

12. There is a natural law, a Divine law, that obliges you and me to relieve the suffering, the distressed and the destitute. — Conrad Hilton

13. An attitude of gratitude creates blessings.. Help yourself by helping others. You have the most powerful weapons on earth.. love and prayer. — John Templeton

14. It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. — Mother Teresa

15. It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it. — Albert Einstein

16. Giving frees us from the familiar territory of our own needs by opening our mind to the unexplained worlds occupied by the needs of others. — Barbara Bush

17. God answers sharp and sudden on some prayers,
And thrusts the thing we have prayed for in our face,
A gauntlet with a gift in it. — Elizabeth Barrett Browning

18. I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver. — Maya Angelou

19. There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life — happiness, freedom, and peace of mind — are always attained by giving them to someone else. — Peyton Conway March

20. All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. — Edmund Burke

21. Service is the rent we pay for being. It is the very purpose of life, and not something that you do in your spare time. — Marion Wright Edelman

22. What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other? — George Elliot

23. The worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not the hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That’s the essence of inhumanity. — George Bernard Shaw

24. Charity sees the need, not the cause. — German proverb

25. He who gives when he is asked has waited too long. — Lucius Annaeus Seneca  CHOOSE_GENEROSITY_by_battytothebone

26. The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. — William Wordsworth

27. If those who owe us nothing gave us nothing, how poor we would be. — Antonio Porchia

28. Being considerate of others will take your children further in life than any college degree. — Marian Wright Edelman

29. Open your heart – open it wide; someone is standing outside. — Mary Engelbreit

30. I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again. — William Penn

31. If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one. — Mother Teresa

32. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. — Anne Frank

33. I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. — Edward Everett Hale

34. This is the true joy in life – being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. — George Bernard Shaw

35. If you have no will to change it, you have no right to criticize it. — Author Unknown

36. Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity. — Horace Mann

37. The great use of life is to spend it for something that outlasts it. — William James

38. If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it. — Anthony J. D’Angelo

39. If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito.
— Betty Reese

40. If you’re too busy to give your neighbor a helping hand, then you’re just too darned busy. — Marie T. Freeman

41. Do something for somebody every day for which you do not get paid. — Albert Schweitzer

42. Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another’s pain, life is not in vain. — Helen Keller

43. Success has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It’s what you do for others. — Danny Thomas

44. When a person is down in the world, an ounce of help is better than a pound of preaching. — Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

45. The impersonal hand of government can never replace the helping hand of a neighbor. — Hubert H. Humphrey

46. A life isn’t significant except for its impact on other lives. — Jackie Robinson

47. When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die. — Eleanor Roosevelt

48. Compassion is not religious business; it is human business, it is not luxury; it is essential for our own peace and mental stability; it is essential for human survival. — Dalai Lama

49. Anywhere I see suffering, that is where I want to be, doing what I can. — Diana, Princess of Wales

50. Don’t spend your precious time asking ‘Why isn’t the world a better place?’ It will only be time wasted. The question to ask is ‘How can I make it better?’ To that there is an answer. — Leo F. Buscaglia

Bonus: Business! Mankind was my business. The common welfare was my business; charity, mercy, forbearance, and benevolence, were all my business. The dealings of my trade were but a drop of water in the comprehensive ocean of my business! –Charles Dickens

Dead? Again?

Mamacita says:  Lady Gaga?  I know who she is, but have no interest in hearing her sing or carry on or shake hands with the Queen whilst in full GagaGear.

However, I have to add that she might want to hire new publicity people as her current ones seem to have a one-track mind.

Last night at the pub, right in the middle of beer pong fine family restaurant in which my daughter and I were having a late-night snack, in the middle of a group participation stunt, the DJ stopped everything and announced that Lady Gaga was dead.

Again.

I was just wondering if she’d ever read “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” as a child.

Rambles With No Easy Answers

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Mamacita says:  Women who had difficult labors probably hate me already right now, but I’ll go ahead and make it worse: I loved being pregnant. I felt GREAT.

Even when I was sitting still, doing nothing, I was still doing something wonderfully productive.  I was euphoric.  I felt very off-balance, but I’m so inclined that way anyway it wasn’t too bad.  But mostly, I just felt good.  The concept that after I had the baby, I would actually HAVE the baby, hadn’t sunken in yet.

I was scared of my babies. I knew I was too ignorant to deserve them, and I felt it was just a matter of time until my supreme ignorance caused me to do something with or to a baby that would toss me in the state pen for life, and deservedly so.  I could hear the sentence in my head:  YOU ARE FAR TOO STUPID TO GET TO HAVE BABIES!”

Somehow, I managed.  WE managed.  My kids are fantastic today, so maybe they didn’t suffer TOO much.  Sigh.

But, between panic attacks, I had fun with my babies, too. I made zillions of mistakes and did tons of stupid things, but I had fun. I hope they did, too.

I know I was half-asleep through a lot of it, esp. anything that happened in the early morning hours, and I know I was an odd mommy, and I hated having to leave them and go to work but I had no choice, and I know I packed some really bizarre lunches for them to take to school, and I know it’s probably my fault that both of them are night owls like me, and I know I embarrassed them a lot (that was my job, after all) but I also know that the good things far outweighed the bad, even if I could remember all the bad, which I don’t, which is probably best for the perpetuation of mankind.

After all, they’re alive, and they’re still speaking to me. I call that a good sign. And, they’re curious about everything and they love to go to see live shows.  They also both love music and enjoy living outside of the box.    They’re both sensitive and tenderhearted and like to help people, and they enjoy being odd on purpose to make other people mad.  I’m sure I have no idea where they learned THAT.

This ramble probably makes no sense, but I’m sitting here with a soul-splitting migraine, wishing I were tired enough to just get up and go to bed, and knowing that if I did I’d just lie there for hours and hours, feeling guilty because lately I’ve been wishing for my children’s childhoods back so I could do a better job this time, and knowing that with some things, well, even the gods can’t unscramble eggs. . . .

I also wish I could solve all the problems of the world with a wave of my hand, and knowing I can’t, and wishing I could, anyway, and wondering why some people have to be so cruel, and wondering how some people can be so upbeat in the face of unspeakable horror, and wishing I were thinner, and nicer, and more fun, and knowing I probably could be if only I weren’t also so lazy, well, I’ve got a massive migraine and these thoughts aren’t my fault.  They’re not, they’re not, they’re not!

Maybe I should go to bed and get up early.  I almost wish I had a pile of quizzes to grade.  Life has all kinds of quizzes, doesn’t it.  The quizzes in my briefcase usually have  easy answers.

P.S. It would be lovely if there were a prize for the person who counts all the run-on sentences and comments with the number, but there isn’t one.  Do it anyway if you’re the O/C type, and I’ll thank you, but that’s all you get.

Quotation Saturday: Shades of the Past!

quotationsaturdayMamacita says:  “Shades of the past” is an expression I occasionally use.  I’ve said it several times these past holiday weeks, in fact.  So I thought, well, why not use it as the theme for this week’s Quotation Saturday?

I know it’s Sunday now.  Shhhhh.

How very seemly to quote about the past when my deadline is past.

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1. Nothing is improbable until it moves into past tense. — George Ade

2. The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present. — Barbara De Angelis

3. It is one thing to learn about the past; it is another to wallow in it. — Kenneth Auchincloss

4. Nostalgia is a seductive liar. — George W. Ball

5. The past should be a springboard, not a hammock. — Ivern Ball

6. A safe but sometimes chilly way of recalling the past is to force open a crammed drawer. If you are searching for anything in particular you don’t find it, but something falls out at the back that is often more interesting. — Sir James M. Barrie

7. The past grows gradually around one, like a placenta for dying. — John Berger

8. The present contains nothing more than the past, and what is found in the effect was already in the cause. — Henri L. Bergson

9. If you are carrying strong feelings about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live in the present. — Les Brown

10. One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us. — Michael Cibenko

11. To look back to antiquity is one thing, to go back to it is another. — Charles Caleb Colton

12. The past always looks better than it was because it isn’t here. — Finley Peter Dunne

13. The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there. — Leslie P. Hartley

14. If the only new thing we have to offer is an improved version of the past, then today can only be inferior to yesterday. Hypnotized by images of the past, we risk losing all capacity for creative change. — Robert Hewison

15. If the past cannot teach the present and the father cannot teach the son, then history need not have bothered to go on, and the world has wasted a great deal of time. — Russell Hoban

16. Nothing changes more constantly than the past; for the past that influences our lives does not consist of what actually happened, but of what men believe happened. — Gerald W. Johnson

17. What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new. Right now. — Unknown

18. Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed. — Wayne Dyer

19. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. —
Paul Boese

20. I’ve never tried to block out the memories of the past, even though some are painful. I don’t understand people who hide from their past. Everything you live through helps to make you the person you are now.– Sophia Loren

21. Looking back you realize that a very special person passed briefly through your life- and it was you. It is not too late to find that person again. — Robert Brault

22. Whoso neglects learning in his youth, loses the past and is dead for the future. — Euripides

23. When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things – not the great occasions – that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness. — Bob Hope

24. Events in the past may be roughly divided into those which probably never happened and those which do not matter. — William Ralph Ing

25. We are not animals. We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice. — Stephen Covey

26. For time and the world do not stand still. Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or the present are certain to miss the future. — John F. Kennedy

27. Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. — Oscar Wilde

28. Prepare for the unknown by studying how others in the past have coped with the unforeseeable and the unpredictable. — George S. Patton

29. A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots. — Marcus Garvey

30. We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present. — Marianne Williamson

31. The reading of all good books is like a conversation with the finest minds of past centuries. — Rene Descartes

32. You must learn from your past mistakes, but not lean on your past successes. — Denis Waitley

33. Much of the social history of the Western world, over the past three decades, has been a history of replacing what worked with what sounded good. — Thomas Sowell

34. The danger of the past was that men became slaves. The danger of the future is that man may become robots. — Erich Fromm

35. We must welcome the future, remembering that soon it will be the past; and we must respect the past, remembering that it was once all that was humanly possible. — George Santayana

36. Without libraries what have we? We have no past and no future. — Ray Bradbury

37. If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system. — William James

38. The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us, and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone. — George Eliot

39. Nothing that was worthy in the past departs; no truth or goodness realized by man ever dies, or can die. — Thomas Carlyle

40. The past, the present and the future are really one: they are today. — Harriet Beecher Stowe

41. Nothing revives the past so completely as a smell that was once associated with it. — Vladimir Nabokov

42. The present was an egg laid by the past that had the future inside its shell.
— Zora Neale Hurston

43. Memories are the key not to the past, but to the future. — Corrie Ten Boom

44. A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories. — Honore de Balzac

45. If you want the present to be different from the past, study the past. — Baruch Spinoza

46. You can’t undo the past… but you can certainly not repeat it. — Bruce Willis

47. Nostalgia: A device that removes the ruts and potholes from memory lane. — Doug Larson

48. God gave us memory that we might have roses in December. — Sir James M. Barrie

49. Tomorrow hopes we have learned something from yesterday. — John Wayne

50. Anyone who limits her vision to memories of yesterday is already dead. — Lillie Langtry