Mamacita says: I simply do not comprehend the mentality of parents who view the toy department of a store as a daycare center for their children. Sure, shopping is a lot easier without the kids, but unsupervised children tend to make a mess, not to even mention the predator factor. I bet these are the parents who complain and sue the store if their kids get hurt, and who become outraged if someone complains or says something to them.
Besides, who wants to purchase obviously played-with merchandise? My children were never allowed to open a package until it was paid for and we had exited the store. Before it’s paid for, it’s not theirs! My children also knew how to behave themselves in a store, and if either of them had ever pitched a fit of any kind melted down in a public place, there would have been hell to pay and they knew it.
I wasn’t a mean mommy, either. I was, however, one of the adults in charge of my house, and the kids weren’t. My children weren’t perfect by a long shot, but in public, they knew they had to toe the line. People of ALL ages should toe the line in public; I’ve seen a lot of adults behaving badly in public and it’s disgusting. One can only hope that such people never find anyone willing to breed with them, but unfortunately there’s usually someone for everyone. Sigh. It isn’t rocket science to understand that small children who are tired or hungry do NOT belong in a store. Go home and take care of your kids, and THEN go to WalMart. Sheesh. What’s that? You’re tired and rushed yourself, and you want to pick up the kids, make a few stops, go home and stay home? Too bad. You owe the world better than that.
And what kind of people put a baby wearing nothing but a cloth diaper, in a shopping cart? I guess we all know what kind of people do that, huh.
Today, it seems as though far too many homes are being run by the kids, not the adults. This isn’t a good thing, parents. This doesn’t mean you’re NICE parents; it means you’re suckers.
I know parents who fix four or five different meals every night. I find this laughable. I am not now nor have I ever been a short order cook in my house. Dinner is served. There was always a choice: take it or leave it. Parents who insist that Mackenzeigh or Gahbrielleigh is “picky” are not being the adult in their own home. Let your child get hungry enough, and he/she will eat what’s put before them. If your kid is so stubborn that he/she passes out rather than try one bite of something, you’ve got a far worse problem than food. You’ve got shrink material.
Few things in society are sadder than a household being run by the children. If you look around these days, however, you can’t help but notice that, sadly and tragically, an awful lot of homes revolve around the kids.
Oh, young parents, wake up and smell the chicken nuggets and french fries. Your home should be a welcoming, loving place, with sections devoted to the welfare, safety, and cuddling of children, but please don’t ever forget that the house belongs to YOU, not them, and that if your children are not required to respect that, you’ve got real trouble on your hands. There should be places in your home that are off limits to the kids, and there should be behaviors that are absolutely forbidden under any circumstances.
Don’t be the family that makes all the employees groan when you walk through the doors. Don’t be the parent who lets the kids fill the cart with toys and candy to keep them busy, and then piles it at the register or hands it all to the cashier because “I’m not going to buy this stuff.” Smile smile, grin grin, with that “entitled” look that makes the planet cry and everybody in line behind them raise their eyebrows and hope that family doesn’t move in next door. I said “cry” and I meant “cry.”
As does the universe when those spoiled, picky kids grow up (if indeed they ever really do) and enter the world believing it owes them a living, by which they mean their own terms on everything. An adult who lives on chicken nuggets, fries, and corn, and who won’t even TRY anything new, is pathetic. And those habits were no doubt nurtured by adoring parents who had a picky child and accommodated him/her in demanding and getting his/her own way.
Laura Ingalls Wilder’s mother, Caroline Ingalls, said it like this: Hunger is the best sauce.
Let your kids get hungry. Let their only choice at dinner be “take it or leave it.” You might just discover that your picky child, once he/she is absolutely starving, will take a bite. He/she might even like it. But whether he/she likes a food or not, if that’s what’s for dinner, that’s what everybody should be eating. Or at least trying to eat. It’s a good idea to serve at least one food that you know everyone will eat, along with whatever else is on the menu.
Breakfast, after all, is only twelve or fourteen hours away. Dessert and snacks are for people who ate dinner first.
Come on, parents. Be the adults in your house. Please? Shhh, I think I hear the universe clapping.
Be honest now. Wasn’t it really, really satisfying when all those dreadful children got exactly what they deserved in Willy Wonka’s factory?
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A great post, Jane.
Juggernaut: Is it reasonable to ask a 4.5-year-old to chew with her mouth closed? Yes. But with lots of reminders.
As to the picky eaters: back when the grown kids were young, we all learned about hospitality and compromise via the dinner offerings.
Examples:
As a family of five:
*two of us loathed cauliflower and three of us thought it was one of the top 3 vegetables. The compromise part was that cauliflower was served at least once a week. The hospitality part is that another vegetable was also prepared (not difficult with frozen vegetables).
*one of us loathed lamb in any form. This was a challenge as we were raising sheep at the time. So on lamb-for-dinner nights, one of the side dishes was always a hearty casseroleish thing, made extra-large so the lamb-hater could have extra helpings.
Here’s the trick: the compromise & hospitality aspects of the meal were always discussed as part of the dinner conversation.
A great post, Jane.
Juggernaut: Is it reasonable to ask a 4.5-year-old to chew with her mouth closed? Yes. But with lots of reminders.
As to the picky eaters: back when the grown kids were young, we all learned about hospitality and compromise via the dinner offerings.
Examples:
As a family of five:
*two of us loathed cauliflower and three of us thought it was one of the top 3 vegetables. The compromise part was that cauliflower was served at least once a week. The hospitality part is that another vegetable was also prepared (not difficult with frozen vegetables).
*one of us loathed lamb in any form. This was a challenge as we were raising sheep at the time. So on lamb-for-dinner nights, one of the side dishes was always a hearty casseroleish thing, made extra-large so the lamb-hater could have extra helpings.
Here’s the trick: the compromise & hospitality aspects of the meal were always discussed as part of the dinner conversation.
Too right. At the moment I do two meals, one for my son and then another for myself & my OH, but that’s simply because we prefer to eat much later than he needs to, but that is purely for my convenience, not his.
Jugglernaut: I expect my 2.5yo boy to keep his mouth shut and not talk while he’s eating, and most of the time he manages it, so I would say it’s more than reasonable to expect it of a 4.5yo.
Too right. At the moment I do two meals, one for my son and then another for myself & my OH, but that’s simply because we prefer to eat much later than he needs to, but that is purely for my convenience, not his.
Jugglernaut: I expect my 2.5yo boy to keep his mouth shut and not talk while he’s eating, and most of the time he manages it, so I would say it’s more than reasonable to expect it of a 4.5yo.
Willy Wonka did have the right idea.
Willy Wonka did have the right idea.
Funny this came up right now. Both boys went to bed last night without dinner. They both decided they’d rather pitch a fit over what we were having and that was it. At bedtime, when they decided they were both starving, it was too bad so sad. This has been going on forEVER. I figure eventually they’ll figure it out and just eat. It’s not like I’m making liver and onions, last night was grilled chicken and rice. Sigh…
Funny this came up right now. Both boys went to bed last night without dinner. They both decided they’d rather pitch a fit over what we were having and that was it. At bedtime, when they decided they were both starving, it was too bad so sad. This has been going on forEVER. I figure eventually they’ll figure it out and just eat. It’s not like I’m making liver and onions, last night was grilled chicken and rice. Sigh…
Oh, yes! Also, Willie Wonka is my hero…love the way he dealt with those dreadful children.
Oh, yes! Also, Willie Wonka is my hero…love the way he dealt with those dreadful children.
I could have written this!
I could have written this!
I would SO MUCH like to forward this post to my sister to encourage her to start correcting my darling niece . . .
Quick question from someone who is rarely around kids: Is it reasonable to ask a 4.5-year-old to chew with her mouth closed?
I would SO MUCH like to forward this post to my sister to encourage her to start correcting my darling niece . . .
Quick question from someone who is rarely around kids: Is it reasonable to ask a 4.5-year-old to chew with her mouth closed?
Oh A-FREAKING-MEN!!
Oh A-FREAKING-MEN!!
I saw Oprah today, and she had on that guy Walsh whose son was abducted/killed 27 years ago. His wife was in a store with Adam, and she told him…”I’ll be in the lamp dept.” I don’t know where Adam was, but it was probably in the toy or TV department. How people can leave any child unattended anywhere nowadays I will never understand!!
I saw Oprah today, and she had on that guy Walsh whose son was abducted/killed 27 years ago. His wife was in a store with Adam, and she told him…”I’ll be in the lamp dept.” I don’t know where Adam was, but it was probably in the toy or TV department. How people can leave any child unattended anywhere nowadays I will never understand!!